One of the hardest things for you as a same-sex couple is receiving and taking good advice from the sea of wedding information out there today. The problem is that most of it is always geared towards a bride and a groom. Well when you are both one of those, it can cause a hindrance in your planning process. Here at Adagio, we are a nondiscriminatory company and we want your wedding to go perfectly. We hope some of the following tips can be helpful to you in your planning process of a same-sex wedding.
Being Authentically You
There are a lot of traditional practices when doing a traditional ceremony. Don’t feel like you have to fit the pattern of everyone else. Our advice to you is to make your ceremony “authentically you”. You’re one of a kind, a special couple…this calls for making the ceremony something that represents your love, in your kind of way.
Walking Down the Aisle
Traditionally it’s the man that walks down the aisle first and waits for the bride as she comes down last. Well, how on earth are you supposed to do this if, let’s say, you are both grooms or both brides? Once again, you don’t have to follow “rules” of a traditional wedding. Some other options to consider would be walking down hand in hand or locking arms. Another popular way to approach this would be to both walk down separate aisles that meet each other at the end. Some couples see this as a way to represent their journey away from each other and symbolizing the two lovingly coming together in the end.
Bridesmaids & Groomsman
This is an area where you just have to pick those who are closest to you. Don’t worry about if you have a “bridesman” or a “groomswoman” in there. The whole point of having a wedding party anyways is to share and celebrate your love together. As long as you have people who love and care about you in there, what does it matter?
Find LGBT Friendly Vendors
More and more vendors and companies are becoming LGBT friendly but it is always a smart idea to make that very clear before booking anyone. There have been horror stories of couples booking vendors who they thought were okay with the LGBT community that actually weren’t. We just want to save you the headache; always check before you book.
Many same-sex couples still have a bachelor or bachelorette party. In some cases, it works for the couple to have one giant party and invite their closest friends. This works well if you and your partner can agree on a place to go and what to do. If you’ve both imagined up different ideas, one thing many couples do is have spate parties on the same day and at the end of the night they meet up and have their grand finale!
Of course, this list isn’t all inclusive by any means but from experience, these are a few of the questions and hiccups that most same-sex couples have when it comes to planning their wedding. We sincerely hope that you have a wonderful time planning your wedding and that it turns out to be one of the greatest days of your lives. Until then, stay cheerful! 🙂
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